I posted this “inspirational” message on my Facebook page the other day and today I noticed that it has been shared a lot and reached a very large audience. This message resonated highly with me, which is why I created the post and I’m thrilled that others like it, too. So, I thought I’d share it here with you. It’s about making Wise Choices.
Give …
…but don’t allow yourself to be used. As I look back on my own life, especially when I was married to my ex, I realize that I gave too much—to the point that I lost myself in the process. When I learned to say “no” or to say “not right now” I gave myself time and space to be sure it was what I want to do and that doing it would serve me well. Being used doesn’t feel good. Step back for a moment—be an observer. What would you advise a friend to do in the same situation? Is it a wise choice for you?
Love…
…but don’t allow your heart to be abused. Recently, I found it very hard to be with an old friend—we weren’t being kind to each other—something had changed. It hurt my heart. I felt abused—she may have felt the same. I had to distance myself from her so that I could heal my heart. I let her go—with love. Love is one of those wise choices we make … we can love and give it freely while still protecting our heart.
Trust…
…but don’t be naïve. Blind trust, like blind faith, can steer us in a direction that doesn’t feel right. Can you think of a time when you’ve put blind trust in something or someone? I’ve learned that trust and faith work best when combined with one more thing—your own Inner Wisdom. Your intuition. Your gut. When you trust that, you will always be okay. Do your due diligence, become informed about whatever the particular situation requires. Then sit with it for a while. Let your Inner Wisdom come into play. Speaking from my own experience: Wise Choices come when you let your intuition be your guide.
Listen…
…but don’t lose your own voice. Listening to others is a wonderful way to learn. The trick is to gather information and process it until you come up with your own perspective based on that information. I remember a time when I would “mimic” my ex-husband’s opinions just to keep the peace. I had lost my voice. It was just easier that way. I later learned to listen and use my own voice again—and use it with love.
Give—Love—Trust—Listen. When you make these wise choices they will lead you to take inspired actions.
From my “trusting” heart to yours …
P.S. I invite you to make a wise choice of your own by taking an inspired action to join our exclusive group of like-minded women on Facebook, Thrive after Divorce: Your Journey Begins. Join us and get in on the conversation!