Going through life’s upside-down moments, like divorce, can challenge every fiber of your being and it becomes hard to think clearly, know what you are feeling, and be steady enough to take a step in the right direction. In fact, you may feel so stuck that moving at all is a massive struggle. These divorce quotes may inspire you to think about your situation differently.
I know for sure that I’ve been inspired by something when I get “goosies”—those chilling, hair-raising bumps I get from head to toe when I’ve heard a truth that resonates for me. When I’m most inspired, those goosies often come with tears welling warmly in my eyes and a slight smile on my lips.
As life happens there are many reasons to feel inspired and hopeful. There are just as many reasons to feel downtrodden and hopeless. How you see it depends on your perspective. More importantly, how you feel it depends on the choice you make.
Life’s journey is fraught with ups and downs, ebbs and flows. Going through a divorce is one of those times when it can feel like a tsunami. As a result, everything doesn’t always work out the way you planned. For instance, there may be disappointments and unmet expectations, as well as betrayals and lies that lead to a loss of trust.
There can also be happy synchronicities that help you to feel like it’s meant to be. During this time, there may be those moments when you are absolutely certain that you’ve heard the truth. Along with this may come simple pleasures that fill your heart with joy.
Inspiration comes when you feel something from the inside out. It often comes when you hear someone else share their wisdom. I hope one or two of these divorce quotes find you at just the right time and inspire you to heal and move forward.
Divorce Quotes about Fear
When you are stuck, unable to move, the likely culprit is fear. Fear of the unknown, of not being good enough, or feeling unworthy to name a few. It happens to all of us, especially when you are in the midst of a divorce.
These fears often come from old stories and childhood conditioning. Have you stopped to ask yourself if the fear is one you still believe? Or is it something you grew up being afraid of and it no longer is true. Perhaps you can release it.
When fear rears its ugly head for me, I take out my journal and write. What is it I’m afraid of? How does it make me feel? This is how I can look at it more rationally, stepping back from it, and seeing it clearly at this moment in time. I often realize that fear stems from something in my past. The insight I get allows me to let it go so I can move forward holding a new belief that isn’t grounded in fear.
And then I read the wisdom of others …
“Hope and fear cannot occupy the same space at the same time. Invite one to stay.”
“The fears we don’t face become our limits.”
“Whenever you find yourself doubting how far you can go, just remember how far you have come. Remember everything you have faced, all the battles you have won, and all the fears you have overcome.”
“We generate fears while we sit. We overcome them by action. Fear is nature’s way of warning us to get busy.”
~Dr. Henry Link
“Miracles start to happen when you give as much energy to your dreams as you do to your fears.”
Divorce Quotes about Faith
Something I read struck me in Sharon Lechter’s book Think and Grow Rich for Women. She used the phrase “walk with faith” that something will happen. Most people say walk in faith. That small word change was powerful for me. It placed the faith firmly within me, rather than something that is outside of me. I feel more in control. Perhaps it’s a small distinction, yet it was an important one for me.
With this control comes a freedom to make choices that help you to heal from any upside-down time in your life. Take a moment to relate these divorce quotes to your situation, and see how they can inspire you to move gently forward.
“As I look back on my life I realize that every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better.”
“Sometimes the bad things that happen in our lives put us directly on the path to the best things that will ever happen to us.”
“Worry looks around, fear looks back, guilt looks down, faith looks up, and I look forward.”
“It starts with a dream. Add faith and it becomes a belief. Add action and it becomes part of life. Then, add perseverance and it becomes a goal in sight. Next, add patience and time and it ends with a dream come true.”
“When you’ve come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, having faith is knowing one of two things will happen: there will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly.”
Divorce Quotes about Gratitude
There are days—and we all have them—when nothing will go your way. Life happens and your world turns upside down and you haven’t even left home yet.
These are the days when you struggle to find the good in people, happiness in a song or beauty in the sunshine. You’d rather crawl back into bed and pull the covers over your head.
On these days, gratitude can become your best friend. For instance, notice the big things in your life for which you feel grateful—and the small things. You may want to write them down and keep a daily journal, so when you’re feeling especially blue it can serve as a reminder.
At the moment you feel grateful, you cannot also feel hurt, anger or depression. Believe it. Then read these inspiring quotes:
“Every day may not be good, but there is something good in every day. Notice and be grateful.”
“Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.”
~William Arthur Ward
“Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.”
“Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.”
“Gratitude turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity. It makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”
Divorce Quotes about Change
Things change, like it or not. There is nothing we can do to stop it, so we may as well learn to adapt and accept it.
But, change can be very difficult, and it takes courage to face the unknown. Divorce is one of those times when a lot is not known, and it is scary.
Some people think about all the things that could go wrong. While others look at change as a challenge. There is no right or wrong way to face change. there is, however, a better way.
I like this metaphor: stop looking in the rearview mirror and start looking through the windshield. That’s the way you’re heading.
If change is inevitable, you have a choice to make. Go with it or fight it. You can play the victim or have the courage to take charge. Some of these divorce quotes may help you make a change and assist in your healing journey:
“New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings.”
“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.”
“There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist or accept responsibility for changing them.”
“The struggle you are in today is developing the strength you need for tomorrow. Don’t give up.”
“At any given moment, you have the power to say: this is not how the story is going to end.”
~Christine Mason Miller
I hope some of these inspiring words will meet you where you are today and lift you up. May they help you to heal and start looking through the windshield at that place where you want to go.
Step Onto Your Bridge
When life-changing moments flip your world upside down, I create a bridge so you can turn chaos into calm. You build resilience and learn to live a life guided by your own values and vision. Are you ready to take the first step onto your bridge? Do you want to explore how change can impact you? Would you like to learn how to move through it with more dignity and grace? I’m here to help. Get my free ebook From Darkness to Light: Learning to Adapt to Change and Move Through Transition.