Do You Love Yourself Enough?

With Mother’s Day behind us, I’m reminded of the many roles women play. Many of us are mothers to their own born or adopted children. Others of us have nieces and nephews or godchildren in our lives with whom we are so close that they are like our own children. And then there are those of us who adopt or rescue furry-children who need our love and protection because they can’t do it themselves.

And, if the mother role were not enough, we’re also professionals with busy careers, sisters, friends, spouses, care-givers, volunteers, nurturers, homework helpers, researchers and so much more.

With all that going on in your life, it’s important to ask yourself the question: Do you love yourself enough to take care of YOU?

You Don’t Have Time, You Say?

Let’s talk about the time it takes to love you.

As you look in the mirror each morning while brushing your teeth, can you say, “Hey Gorgeous! I love you and I’m going to take care of you today!”

Don’t laugh. Try it. This takes no additional time and it begins to set aside self-judgment and opens the ways for you to believe you deserve to be well taken care of. And who, better than you, knows what you need to feel good?

As you pour your morning coffee or tea, set aside 5-10 minutes to sit quietly and think about your day. How can you make time to take care of yourself today? You’ve just carved out 5-10 minutes for you. Good job!

After you’ve dropped the kids at school and you’re on your way to work, put on some soothing music, take some deep breaths and relax your mind as you prepare for the day. No additional time taken. Time well spent.

See what I mean? You can grab snippets of time while you’re doing other things to focus on your own well-being. This is a loving practice that is easy to integrate into your daily routine.

Make Self-care a Priority

What are some of the other things you can do to prove that you love yourself enough?

Think of doing things that serve different areas in your life that matter to you. You can choose from these areas which are important to me or add your own:

Most of the following ideas I share next are simple ones and I’m sure you can add to this list.

For me, the times I spend in deep relaxation are the times that re-charge my batteries the most. I love to go to the day spa and get a massage or facial (and sometimes both at the same time!). This allows my whole body to relax (physical). It quiets my mind so I can get in touch with the real me (spiritual).

Another passion pastime that feeds my creative soul is designing floral arrangements and accessorizing areas in my home or in the homes of others. As I immerse myself in this creative process, time stands still and it flies all at once. I’m exhilarated by this process and I get to enjoy the creations for a long time to come. (Creative plus emotional and spiritual.)

Taking time to research a topic of interest can take my mind off other matters that are weighing on me as it stimulates my intellectual side. For instance, I love researching new healthy recipes and testing them out. This “loves” the creative and physical sides of me, too.

Spending quiet time, listening to music or guided meditations, and thinking about everything and nothing in particular are good ways for me to get in touch with my inner wisdom, and love the emotional and spiritual areas of my life like nothing else.

Love Yourself Enough

What are the things you can do for yourself that will take care of those areas of your life that need to be recharged? I suggest to my clients to make a list.

You might put several headings on a piece of paper that are the important areas for you to take care of, for instance: Physical, Intellectual, Creative, Emotional and Spiritual. Then list those things under each category that you can do to love yourself enough each day.

Read a book, write in your journal, practice gratitude, take a walk, ride your bike, play with your pets, spend time with friends, knit/crochet, write poems or songs, watch the clouds pass by or sit by the river and listen.

Commit to doing at least one of the things on your list each and every day. Do more than one whenever you can.

Make this a practice and you’ll never regret the time you spend to love yourself enough to take the best care of you.

From my “loving” heart to yours …
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About The Author

María Tomás-Keegan

María is a certified Life Transitions Coach and Mentor for Women, specializing in Divorce Recovery. She brings her multi-faceted 20+ year corporate experience as a coach, mentor, consultant and marketing manager to bear in her coaching practice. Her specialty is working with professional women who put on a mask every day pretending they're okay, while deep inside they're not. María's programs and coaching techniques help women get back in touch with their true self so they can live their lives by design, rather than by default. María is founder and "Chief Inspiration Officer" at SafeHarbor Coaching, LLC.

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