What major change was your turning point?

Turning Point — a change for the better

I started reading a book this weekend that got me to thinking about turning points in my life.  This book is called Turning Points.  There are 25 inspiring stories from women entrepreneurs who have turned their careers and lives around after a significant turning point in their lives. This book was compiled and edited by a friend, Kate Cobb, who always impresses me with her kindness, generosity of spirit and knowledge.  I started reading the book because it was she who created it.  I soon was reading it because of the inspiration I felt on each page I turned.

What is a Turning Point?

It was described so well in this book.  A “turning point is literally the moment you turn your life around; when you realize your circumstances can’t get any worse and in that instant, you pivot your life about by making the decision that you will change things for the better, even though you may not know how.  Or it can be a blinding flash of light when everything suddenly falls into place and you know exactly that you have to change your life.”

How many Turning Points have you had?

I think many of us actually have more than one Turning Point.  The first real turning point that I remember was when I left my parents home when I was about 19—I didn’t always make the best decisions back then but, overall I have no regrets.  There was a big career turning point when I chose to work for a direct response agency in Connecticut in my late 20s, which shaped the rest of my long and mostly rewarding career in marketing.  Then there was another one in my early 40s which resulted in my second divorce.  I think that was one of the most significant Turning Points that woke me up to the fact that taking care of me had to become my first priority—and if I chose not to do that, I would be doomed to repeat some of the choices that did not serve me well in my 30s.  The most recent Turning Point was the unexpected layoff after working for a company for 18 years—this one led to my new career as a life transitions coach.  Some Turning Points are horrible experiences, some are teaching moments and some lead us to fulfill our purpose in life.

The benefit of Turning Points

Can you imagine if we had no Turning Points in our lives?  There would be no ah-ha moments.  There would be nothing to wake us up and cause us to look deeply at our lives and make a choice to change it for the better.  There would be no one moment or event or circumstance we can point to and say, “That’s the day I knew I had a choice to improve my life.” 

I don’t know anyone who has not had some kind of Turning Point in their life.  And, as I think about it, it would seem very sad to me that someone has not had the gift of a Turning Point.  An epiphany.  A tap on the shoulder.  A push in a new direction.  Something to look back on and say, “If it were not for that circumstance, I would not be where I am today!  And I love where I am today!”

Sometimes Turning Points are scary

Scary, especially when they come out of the blue. But even if they are planned, there can be lots of uncertainly that comes along with it.  

Like any major life transition, it can be power-packed with everything from fear to anxiety, pain and grief, overwhelm and lack of confidence—and everything in between.  This book, Turning Points, reminded me of the resilience of our human condition, even in the midst of emotions that are super-charged and which can cause us to stop listening to our own innate inner wisdom. 

I love the advice in this book, too.  It supports what I often tell my clients.  We are not meant to do this transition stuff, these Turning Points, alone.  Since these Turning Points become woven into the fabric of our lives, indeed they influence who we become, we must heed the advice of those who have been through it and THRIVED.  “The three keys to making the most of your Turning Point are:  1) Know yourself, 2) Get support and 3) Amass knowledge.”

I could not agree more.  This blog post has turned into an endorsement for this book—that was not my initial intention.  But, I truly think you will get a lot of inspiration from each woman’s story of trial and tribulation to triumph.  I did.  And I recommend it highly.

In case you’d like to get yourself a copy in paperback, or order it for your Kindle, here is a link to it on Amazon: Turning Points.

Make this your day ~~~ Explore  …  Dream  …   Discover!

~~~María

 

Chief Inspiration Officer | SafeHarbor Coaching | For women facing life transitions

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About The Author

María Tomás-Keegan

María is a certified Life Transitions Coach and Mentor for Women, specializing in Divorce Recovery. She brings her multi-faceted 20+ year corporate experience as a coach, mentor, consultant and marketing manager to bear in her coaching practice. Her specialty is working with professional women who put on a mask every day pretending they're okay, while deep inside they're not. María's programs and coaching techniques help women get back in touch with their true self so they can live their lives by design, rather than by default. María is founder and "Chief Inspiration Officer" at SafeHarbor Coaching, LLC.

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